warm and fuzzy

NO. I dont want to lose the plot. Neither do i want to lose my point. My intention of being in the Mappsych program is still clear though. Understanding, empathatic yes. but not fuzzy..definitely NOT fuzzy. In defense, the last blog was a copy and paste stuff that i thought it is an interesting point of view. Being a scientist-practioner is still my priority. Well, if it makes u feel better, i do my research before seeing client ok.. No..i dont take CL’s words…..

In the midst of preparing to see my first ever client tomorrow. Anxiety case. Ironic. Since i will prob be wrecked with anxiety before seeing her.

I am looking forward in seeing my first case. Mixed feelings of nervousness and a little excited. Spoke to another client on the phone today.. the parent and the child. for some reason, i feel more at ease with the thought of interviewing the child compared to the adult case. Most of my classmates think otherwise.

Will keep u updated abt my blunders.

A carror, an egg and a cup of coffee

A friend sent this to me. As we go through assignments, frm being a student to being in the work force, r/s, or perhaps facing a horrible boss…read on. Dont forget to draw the strength from the Lord though…. It is because of Him that we live.

p.s ah. the rich aroma of coffee.
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A carrot, an egg
and a cup of coffee… You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it
and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water
and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them a in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity … boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on
your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee
bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with
pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am i the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did
I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or
some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you
strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying

sweet thing?

it feels weird…. re-watching the video, looking at yourself and your client, hearing yourself speak and assessing the situation at the same time.

and it feels weird, since when i was in the session, i thought i sounded calm…and really.. i didnt realised it sounded so gentle that it is unlike me! or at least i think it is unlike of me…

and on top of that the first comment frm my ‘client’ (practice setting recorded on tape) was “You are a sweet thing” – ?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!! i thought i was being assuring and calm….

Perception of what another person think of you and what u think of yourself..when u present yourself can be so different.

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My test partner is this bloke frm Germany. 40 years old. Owns a caterer business. Basically wants to do the least work as possible to get the most marks. Efficient guy though…i dont necessary agree with some of his work ethics.. Oh, yeah and org psych major. we are prob the only pair is a mix of 2 majors.

oh..and he tried to sell me this big idea of his..and wants me to help him to do assessment in the future. *roll eyes* to give him credit, his idea of hving a set time, place n activities to get couples together (no u didnt read wrong) is interesting and workable.. but not really my kind of thing. Who knows what i will do a few years later?

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still listening to myself .. i sound weird. weird accent. weird weird weird.

schema therapy

Unrelanting Standards
The underlying belief that one must strive to meet very high internatized standards of behavior and performance, usually to avoid critcism. Typically results in feelings of pressure or difficulty in slowing down and in hypercriticalness toward oneself and others. Must involve significant impairment in pleasure, relaxation, health, self esteem, sense of accomplishment or satisfying relationships.

Unrelanting standards typically present as (a) Perfectionism, inordinate attention to detail, or an undersestimate of how good one’s own performance is relative to the norm. (b) rigid rules and “shoulds” in many areas of life, including unrealistically high moral, ethical, cultural, or religious precepts; or (c) preoccupation with time and efficency, the need to accomplish more.

Young, J. E., Klosko, J. S., & Weishaar, M. E. (2003). Schema Therapy: A practioner’s guide. Guildford Press, New York.

(and no..i didnt want to italise the reference but the stupid icon wont switch off!)
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Sometimes, you discover more about yourself than you want to. Anyway, most of my classmates scored high in unrelating standards. Not surprisingly i guessed. OK..fine..i scored 11 out of 16 in that section..which i suppose, it can be worse!

Did i mention that i will probably die because of cornary heart disease as well?

The “should” part is quite erm… mmm… exposing? Most of my friends will prob remember me going “I should really….”

Oh crap. Schema therapy- there r some basis to it i think..very freudian. I think it is sometimes too freudian for my liking. Cant practioners sometimes accept that it is the CURRENT EVENTS that is affecting their life and not always the childhood (disclaimer: I do agree with the childhood affecting us but surely NOT ALWAYS and definitely NOT for all PROBLEMS).

*roll eyes*

and i really shld get back to studying all 18 schemas.





a little update

Now, most of you will prob know that i am not exactly impressed with Mr Chris lee-due to the major screw up in our exam papers last year and lack of hindsight in lectures. Anyway, i am stuck with him for clinical supervision this semester. I heard he make a better clinican than a lecturer, i can only pray that it is true.

And through some weird coincidence, Meien is also in the same grp with me for both the child and adult supervision grps. OH yeah, i’ve got Corrine Reid as my child supervisor..Not bad. I wouldnt mind Pia Broaderick though. Btw, Pia is on “today tonight” as a guest speaker on some family issues (regarding tv watching time..).

It appears that it might be cheaper for me to get books frm amazon.com than to rely on the murdoch schbookstore. I was told that a particular book that i want will cost AUS$120 but amazon.com is only AUS$66 (after conversion). V-u might want to check that out for your booklists.

Time for me to compile books useful for my practice in the future i guess. Expensive though. =(

Now, i implemented the WISC today (ok. IQ test). I reckon there r quite alot of cultural biases in there. Anyway, i bet i will score badly on the spatial part. The whole procedure is tiring..i can see why alot more practice is needed to get the process fluent. I stumbled so many times!

So far, my classmates r getting along well. There r afterall only 11 of us (1 dropped to part-time). On monday, 3 of us practiced empathic skills and we enjoyed the learning process so much that we r going to practice by ourselves on wednesday. I guess we hv to counsel ourselves first before heading out huh. Then again, it costs AUS$176 bucks to get a psychologist for an hr now, we better make use of each other at the moment.. :p

Heading to bed. Tired. Kelvin Kern’s Enchanted Garden will put me to sleep.

ps. a tip-not a good idea to call me on monday.