Listening.

A few weeks of frustration and tiredness. The feeling of wanting to scream yet having to control yourself.

Don’t get me wrong- my placement is going on fine. In fact, I’m enjoying it so much that I’m beginning to wonder if I can ask them for a job there ;p Yes, I have witnessed aggression, poverty , inhibition, very foul language (things u learn from children), trauma accounts, attachment issues, emerging personality issues..etc BUT I can’t explain the thrill and calmness I’m experiencing on placement. Even my supervisor was surprised. (I was secretly pleased when she said something about a particular uni having princesses as students).

What makes me frustrated, is the lack of understanding that people show with regards to what I do. Especially to a particular family member who insists that I did not tell him about my research topic, who insist that I didn’t inform him that I NO LONGER TEACH for an agency for children with autism and what my course entails.

For the benefit of some read this blog (i no longer knows who does anyway but it’s still a good venting source), I have stopped being a reading therapist for autistic children nearly 2.5 years now. For the last 1.5years, I tutored at an university. I stopped this year as I wanted to concentrate on my research + clinical work.

My research topic is on Stress and Rosacea-a skin disorder. I’m trying to find out the role of stress/social anxiety with this particular population.

I do not just work with children but with adults as well-hence it’s called CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY. Even though my primary interest is working with children, I also have other interests in health psychology. Other areas of interest include the different kinds of therapy such as Family Centered Model, Systemic Therapy, Attachment theories, Trauma models, Schema, Mindfuless, DBT and behavioral model. If you do not know what they are, forget it-they are just different models that I work from.

Although I’m not a reading therapist, I’m do practice Discrete Trial Training (DTT) for a child with autism.

I honestly can understand why people can fall into depression-why they feel that no one understands what they are doing and feel unheard. People-have u ever looked at yourself during conversations, STOPPED and think about your responses? Is it a self-centered one? Or is it really about listening to what the other person has to say?

6 weird things about me

THE RULES

Each player of this game starts with the ‘6 weird things about you.’ People who get tagged need to write a post of their own 6 weird things as well as state this rule clearly. In the end, you need to choose 6 people to be tagged and list their names.

6 Weird Things:-

1) I like to talk to strangers on trains and buses. It’s really refreshing to see people freaking out and walking away OR a nice friendly face who do not think you are a freak.

2) When placing items on the cashier belt, they must be in the following order – non-edibles, canned or packet food that are not frozen, snacks, meat then veges. This is not really weird because I do not like squashed veges! Eggs are last.

3) I find men with power really sexy.

4) I used to be left-handed. Granny used to hit my left hand whenever I used it. Hence I was trained to be right-handed.

5) I dislike driving to city places. Especially places where I can’t get parking. It totally stresses me out. I’m ok with country driving or surburb driving though.

6) I don’t drink soft drinks or have chewing gum either. Soft drinks make me feel like a frog, while chewing gum makes me sick.
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6 ppl who have been tagged:

1) Armand
2) Jon Ho Wen Rui
3) Ting Ting
4) Velda
5) Qiaolin
6) Irene

children

Children. They are a gift of life. Why should they be subjected to abuse? Poor parenting skills is one thing but abuse!! Emotional, physical and sexual abuse towards young children- how can anyone do that? Yet sadly, that is the world we live in.

I enjoyed reading Irene’s and Judy’s blog on their children. They celebrated their precious bub as a gift of life. It reminded me of the vulnerability of children and what nurturing and loving and do.

It’s just not fair. Yes, temperamental wise-they are difficult. However, does that mean difficult children ‘deserved’ to be abused?