It was hubby’s birthday back in Jan. As we become parents, it seems that our birthday celebrations are less important. The attention is naturally directed to our little man.
I read a post about a father walking to the front of his house. He heard his wife asking their children to pack up and get ready for daddy to return home. I read that the father took a deep breath and left all his worries and stress behind. He put on a smile, and filled his embrace with love. At the end of the day, all that matters to him was returning home to his loved ones.
Hubby is that man. While we have just one child, I know and appreciate that his priority is us. I care that he always greet Asher with a big smile and hug. His first question to me was “How was your day” and would listen to my rambles before telling me what happened to his. This would happen daily despite me asking him first at times- his answer is always “Your day is far more exciting than mine and I want to hear it.” Later on, he would tell me about some stressors or dramas that have occurred- but at that minute that he entered the door, his priority is to listen to how we went in our day despite what he had endured.
As a working mum, I have to juggle heaps. Day care drop off, pick up (mostly), meals, cleaning, packing..etc. Hubby helps as much as he can but somehow, it seems more “natural” or “easier” for me to do some of the tasks. When my tank is low, it was hard to give. While hubby may not juggle as much, sometimes, I fail to recognise that his tank gets low too. It isn’t easy to work full time, and attempt to give the best he can to his household. That I really truly appreciate.
I thought that this year, I would make a child hood favourite of ours. A fruit flan. Danielle Walker’s recipe was fantastic and I made a few minor changes to suit our family. This is a must make again in our household.
The weather is warming up! I’m not usually a fan of warm weather but I do not mind a little sunshine for our walks and play ground dates.
When someone ask me “How do I do it all?” I struggle to answer that question. Perhaps the right answer is that I do not do it all. In fact, I find it slightly disturbing that I’m sending out a message that I’m doing it all, and providing an image that all is nice and dandy.
I would be the first to admit I do put quite a few things on my plate. I’m working on it but I have some expectations about myself on what I take on as responsibilities. Perhaps a little too much at times, and I do find it hard to “take it easy”. That would be my journey and one that I will learn gradually.
Recently, I was down with laryngitis. Then following a holiday, I was feeling run down again. Despite disliking taking time off work (another down side of working part time), I decided to do it instead of coughing over my colleagues. Even hubby was surprised but agreed I simply needed to rest.
Coming back to “doing it all”. I don’t. I outsource some things too.
- My hubby does most of our washing and would hang out our washing. I do the folding and putting clothes away.
- Once every 2-3 weeks, we have a cleaner that comes in to do a through clean. I highly recommend that. I resisted that initially but realised it buys me back a whole morning every 2-3 weeks with Asher. Now that is precious.
- I try not to cook on Saturdays. We may have a simple pan fried fish or steak. Hubby might take over or we have cold cuts, tinned tuna and salad. Perhaps an occasional take away like a roast chicken from Woolworths, Nandos or Oporto. We were excited to see Zambero open near us! Think a big salad bowl with a slow cooked pull pork..mmmm…
- We make use of “click and collect” from woolies at times. We order our groceries and pick it up
- We also order from The Local Grocer. I love their fresh produce and grass fed meats. Pretty similar if not the same of what we can get from the farmers markets. I do think their prices are a little higher but I look out for offers. Time saved is priceless as well.
- Hubby might pick a few things up with Asher while I do a boxing workout on Saturday mornings.
One of the excitement from ordering from the Local Grocer is that we get some ingredients that we do not usually buy. Take silver beet for instance. I’m not sure why we haven’t been having it more often. Perhaps we are just not used to it. Seeing it in our box makes me want to cook with it. Experimenting with a tart base that i saw from Teresa Cutter, this is a lovely filling tart that we had for 3 days! I love how the crust is full of fibre and vitamins.