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Mango Bread (Paleo, gluten free, dairy free) + Murky Roles

IMG_2866 (640x427)Is being a father/mother = to being a good husband/wife? 

The other day hubby and I had a conversation about roles in parent hood. While it may seem clear cut on what our roles are, it can often be more murky than what it seems. IMG_2869 (427x640)

First up, it does depends on your definition of what a husband or wife should be. For some people, it is about being a partner in life. We uplift each other, we give honest thoughts, we pray. Perhaps we enjoy checking out cafes and coffee. We have heart to heart conversations, have similar thoughts on current affairs. We may share a love for musicals. We do housework together and is there for each other when the going gets tough.We have a good laugh. Most of all we like each other.

Then we have definition of what a parent is like. The usual routine, caring for a child, playing. We may think that providing financially is also one of our roles. IMG_2866 (640x427)

Gently, we teased out the differences. Being a mother/father may contribute being a partner in a relationship but it does not define it. I love seeing hubby being a dad. It gives me great joy when I see hubby plays with Asher or teaching him a skill that I did not even think of teaching. I love seeing how Asher looks up to his dad with those eyes that says “daddy is his hero”. It makes me warm and fuzzy. It fills me with love. Yet I also long for those days and luxuries when I have hubby’s undivided attention. Flowers and gifts. Notes in my lunch box and sweet words. Hubby too realises that he misses being the centre of my attention where I am more flexible in my scheduling, more spontaneous in checking out food places and perhaps less snappiness when I’m tired. He misses my messages on why I love him, and why I respect him. He cares for those evenings when we do not have to rushed to finish getting ready for the next day but just enjoy each other’s company. He would like our conversation to be round us and our dreams/goals- and not just be around what we need to do and need each other to do.

Being a parent is hard work. Being in a marriage and a parent = triple the hard work. The unspoken is that it takes a lot of effort to keep a family together. I certainly appreciate having this conversation to keep me in check, but in reflection of our day to day actions as a couple. IMG_2867 (640x427)

This is one of hubby’s favourite breakfast in summer. The sweetness and creaminess of mango means the bread does not need any other sweeter. Asher for some reason does not like mangos. I think it is the texture (I’m sure he will come around though). Sometimes I may not make something (in order to maximise amount of return for the energy output to make it) because Asher doesn’t eat it as much- but this time, it is for hubby because he likes it. 

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My toddler’s choice: Sweet Potato, Carrot and Apple Muffins (Paleo, Clean Eating, Gluten Free)

Sweet Potato, apple and carrot MuffinsI appreciate my off days with Asher. We laugh, giggle and try to make the most of it.

It is not always fun and games though. There are things in life that we have to attend to regardless of how much fun is it to have fun with a toddler. 

Yes, you will find me multi tasking on some mornings. Perhaps trying to encourage Asher to eat his breakfast while doing a batch up cook. You might even see me folding clothes while trying to have a conversation with my dad over FaceTime. In between, the oven might ring and I will rush to check one of our bakes or a meal that is cooking, while making sure Asher stays out of the way of the hot oven.  The floor would need vacuuming and a mop. The toilets would be scrubbed and bed sheets changed. That, and it is not even 9am yet. IMG_2431 (640x427)

We have some mornings when Asher wakes bright and early at 5:30am, excited to face the day while I grudging wash up and get change. 

These muffins were made during one of those mornings. I decided to make the most out of it with a toddler who clearly would not return back to bed and wanted to “play”. I gathered up some ingredients and allow him to “design his own muffin”. IMG_2425 (640x427)

He chose 

  • sweet potato
  • carrots
  • apples
  • walnuts

If you are wondering what I put on the table… In addition to the above, we had yogurt, feta, almonds and pistachios. 

Not a bad combi I think. It could have been something like feta, apples and pistachios (come to think of it, it wouldn’t have been that odd either). 

Presenting my toddler’s muffin. if you are game enough to give it a try. IMG_2429 (640x427)

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Healthy Coconut Granola

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I realised that since posting this breakfast granola in 2012, I have not updated the changes made to my recipe. It has been 2-3 years now, and this granola remains a staple in my house. It’s easy to see why though, it’s easy to make and very very moorish. I have it on a crumble, or snack on some of the coconut chips and of course, breakie in the morning with my greek yogurt.

This new version does not have oil in it. You can add it if you like but I don’t mind it without. I have also reduced the amount of nuts and prefer to use more coconut instead. While nuts are nutritious, I’m finding that I may have used too much of it- and as we all know, too much of something isn’t a good thing! Nuts in large amount can affect digestion and are higher in calories. Nuts are my portable snacks, I use almond meal in my bakes and sometimes even toast a few to put in salads. I’m finding that I’m more aware of how much nuts I use and is attempting to reduce it- or have a better control over it.

What remained the same? My love for cinnamon. Oh how I love the smell of this granola when it is cooked. It sends such a warmth through the kitchen and the house. I added some ginger powder to it for that extra burst of antioxidants and also cacao nibs. Chocolate for breakfast is good right?

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Healthy Coconut Granola

1 cup of coconut chips

1 cup of desiccated coconut

1/2 to 3/4 cup of mixed nuts

1/2 cup of mixed seeds like pumpkin and sunflower

1 tablespoon of sesame seeds

2 tablespoon of cinnamon

1 tsp of ginger

1 tsp of vanilla paste

1) Toss everything in a bowl.

2) Line baking tray with baking paper. Spread granola on tray.

3) Bake in preheated 180C for 15 minutes