People are often curious about what I do in my day. Given that I’m not working, there is an assumption that I’m the boss of my own time. To a certain extent, I like the freedom of being a little flexible. Tradesman needing to come to the house? Yup, I can arrange that. Parcel collection from the post isn’t in the too hard basket when I can pop to the shops during the day. Arranging a play date on a week day? That can be done.
There are certainly advantages of being at home.
There is a scene in Sarah Jessica Parker’s movie “I don’t know how she does it”– where she played a business woman, juggling between motherhood and career. At night, there is a list of things in her head that she would go through like the end credits of a movie.
I could totally identify with that.
If I am lucky:
7am: Asher and I wake
7-7:30am- Wash up, I change into my day clothes and put some make up on (note to self- if I don’t do it then, I find that I won’t have the chance to do it any time after), change his diaper, prepare breakfasts for both of us
8:15am- Clothes change for him
8:30am-10am- Play time for Asher and me. We read, sing songs, dance, play chasey, hide and seek, stretches, swimming lesson..etc. I might also ring my dad or someone overseas then. More than often, I would squeeze in some housework such as clearing breakfasts, prep work for dinner, tidying around the house, clear the dishwasher, head out to do some groceries with him……
10-11:30am- Milk time and Asher’s nap time. Now, this gets tricky. On a good day, he sleeps in his cot by himself. I have better luck on my bed with heaps of cushions and pillows. Lucky for us, our carpets are thick and I’m close by to make sure he doesn’t fall. Some days, he wants me to hold him. If that happens, I just enjoy cuddle time. I don’t give up putting him down though but he may need resettling. If he sleeps, I get to vacuum and mop the floor, prep dinner, bake something, pack the bag, clean the toilets,
11:30am- He wakes. Has a drink of water. Plays by himself while I prepare lunch for him and myself.
12ish- Lunch time.
12:30-3pm- That depends. Could be gymbaroo, play dates, outing somewhere. I would squeeze in more housework like bringing clothes in, folding clothes, putting them away. Really try cooking dinner!
3-4ishpm- Milk time Nap time. Same deal above.
4ish- Light snack. If I have no chance to prepare dinner above, prepare dinner now!
5pm- Husband comes home!
Depending on which day- I’m off to the gym and arrives home at 6ish.
5-5:45pm- Asher and daddy goes out for a walk
6+pm- Dinner time for Asher.
7pm- Bath time or shower for Asher and hopefully for me too.
7:30pm- BED TIME for him. Dinner time for us.
8ish- bed time: Clean up the kitchen, have a chat with hubby about his day, read, blog, prepare for the next day. Write a list…
Fun begins then
Anytime between 10am- 7am: Asher might wake 2-3 times. He is getting better now and usually only wakes once a night at 3 or 4 am for a feed. Then he sleeps till 6 or 7am. Not bad hey! Previously, he would wake every 3-4 hours and require settling from us. Asher is also sleeping in his own room.
Notice that I have “prepare for dinner” a few times during the day? Well, I have to be flexible from time to time. There are days where I can’t get to dinner prep work till 4pm because Asher is clingy or feeling unwell, or we have been out the whole day. Other days, I might start making chinese slow cooked soup late morning. There are also commitments that I fit in like mothers group, play dates and errands.
On top of that, I’m in charge of Hubby’s breakfasts, Asher’s meals..etc and you guys know I like knowing what I put in my foods so I tend to make as many snack or meal from scratch. In our family, I’m usually in charge of organising presents, groceries list, food budgeting costs, social interactions and keeping in contact with extended family members.
One of the things I enjoy doing is arranging play dates with other mums. It’s so lovely to see the children play together. I noticed that Asher learns from other children. He observes them and later in the day, he would try the skill out. It’s also a chance for me to learn from other mums. Lovely since my immediate family is overseas.
I love it all though. I have my days where I go “what did I REALLY do the whole day?” and would come up blank. Other days, I feel productive and have baked like 2 items, cooked dinner AND manage to spend quality time with Asher and hubby. Oh and the house looked decently clean.
Other days, hubby comes home and dinner could be cooking, but the house is messy and I feel like screaming. Remember that I have no extended family help so we are mostly on our own. I can’t run out to the shops by himself or head to wherever I want whenever I want. I have to make sure it’s not Asher’s nap time, or clashes with hubby’s schedule or any other commitments we have. Looking at the list, it almost sounds SO simple but it is honestly a juggling act.
All fun and games right?
On a long weekend, or if hubby is working from home though, I try to put in extra effort to make us breakfasts. I made these waffles one morning and they are definitely a keeper.
Crispy Waffles with Berries Compote
1 cup of almond meal
1/2 cup of arrowroot flour
2 tsp baking powder
1 tablespoons of coconut sugar
1/4 cup of coconut oil
1/2 cup of Almond milk
1 tsp of lemon juice.
Preheat waffle iron. Place almond meal, arrowroot, baking powder and coconut sugar in a bowl. Whisk all wet ingredients together and fold it into dry. Spoon into waffle iron and make waffles!
1 cup of mixed berries
1 tsp of honey
Place everything in a saucepan and warm it up.
EAT a nice healthy breakfast. This has arrowroot which is a starch so this is not an everyday breakfast if you are watching your starch intake. However, we love it and will have it from time to time.